Give nearness to your long distance relationships

Technology has made easier, that the distance doesn’t matter these days, few emails or quick texts or phone calls at least a day can create the sense of being engaged in each other’s life. Its success depends only on you being connected.

Just because you’re jobless, you cannot judge your partner to be the same. He must be engaged in some other work, give him space, give him time and he will get back to you rather than you craving for him to talk.

The physical communication may sometimes lead to frustrations and then turns to conflicts between you both. This could lead to misunderstandings and it is hard to resolve through emails or phone calls. The distance may lead to silence and it may end up either in progressing or doubting. But sometimes this could also help you in strengthening of your relationship. So give space and trust your partner.

Jealous, is a very dangerous thing, it can threaten any kind of relation. Beware of jealousy, it is a lack of trust and faith. It reveals insecurities and bad experiences in relations.

You cannot control your partner, all that you can do is have faith in your relation and all that you have built in the times of being together.

One of the most difficult things in distance relationships is you cannot randomly pop and ask out for a drink or neither you can hang out every evening for a casual walk. In the absence of these seemingly insignificant shared moments the most people in proximity relationships take for granted, it’s easy for two people to become so stuck in the waiting, and the future, that they completely forget about now. The relationship slowly loses its spark and eventually fades out.

To avoid these, you can plan for virtual dates, that both going to a movie on the same day and then sharing your experiences. You can also play games and share links on the internet. Do not forget to flirt, seduce or tell him how much you care, and how much you miss him. Express your love and keep the romance on.

Meet each other at least once in a month to have a ‘wow’ feeling inside when you see your love live. Plan this ahead, and include activities like city visits, exhibitions or a weekend in a fancy hotel. Make it very special and show your love towards him. And remember, that you can have proximity by touching, feeling and smelling a person and not by email or Skype, so do everything you can to make it happen.

Once in a while, send written emails or letters other than phone calls or text messages. They create a lot of impact in your relationships. Open yourself completely and write, the most important thing is, be honest to yourself. Write about your inner state, what you are feeling, what are your views on relation, how are you going to handle him in the future and everything you feel like. Phone calls or text messages do not give intimacy as much as a written letter givers. So express your love towards him and to mention again do not put fake ideas and pretend to be good. Things only work when both are honest and congruent.

Every relation is not the same, every relation is not easy and every relation is not guaranteed. So don’t run away from relationships because everyone says that it does not work. Long distance relationships actually and successfully work if you are willing to do the hard work. If you are emotionally mature and wanted things to work, then no distance can put apart. Distance can also form a strong foundation for your development in a relationship.

-Nikisha Uddagiri